Kelly Corrigan

And it's also what she's asking tech designers and developers to consider.

Specifically, how accommodating is your product to the values of the families that will be using it?

And should it be customizable?

And that's the tricky space we find ourselves in.

That's what Avni opened up for me on stage.

And that's what I heard people talking about.

in the halls after she spoke.

This terrible tension between an AI that can be customized to values, but still somehow adhering to what is known to be true about the world and reality.

What I think we want from tools, especially from software, is to simplify our lives.

But with something as powerful as AI and something as consequential as the parent-child relationship, it actually requires that we keep our thinking caps on, that we stay very involved and conscientious about the ways that we're using tools and what might be downstream of facilitating certain activities digitally versus the old-fashioned analog way that we were raised.

And that it's on us to notice and measure the impact of what we might be tempted to offload to AI.

I think this talk was really a call to noticing, which is something that Danini's talk was also asking us to consider.

When does family happen in the course of your day?

Like when does intimacy blossom and what circumstances or conditions are people having the important conversations and interactions that glue them together?

Where and how does healthy attachment between parents and kids develop?

And if it's happening when you're driving carpool, then you should keep driving carpool.

And that's just a stand in for any number of activities that we might have the option of handing off to say AI, which could schedule a Waymo that could take your kids to that baseball game on Thursday.

And the thing that Avni is asking us is, are you sure you want to offload that?

But like my speaker Andy Latz discovered when his young son asked him an extraordinarily deep question while they were sitting in their car at a red light, I always found that I learned so much driving carpool because it gave me comparative data.

Like, I just knew my kids.