Kendra Dahlstrom

And so oftentimes we just have to have conversations around, well, you know, who are you outside of work?

What makes you happy?

Again, going back to that values conversation, I think when it comes to working with clients and in the practice around the scariness, we have to explore

And I think you said this even in your talk, like, what's the worst thing that could happen if it did happen?

You know what I mean?

And kind of play with that mindset trick of like, okay, what's the best thing that could happen?

And how might that scare you?

And that kind of does that pattern interrupt where they're like, well, the best thing that could happen, usually I would want that to happen.

But then the fact that there's actually something there that may be holding them back is usually a big awareness for them.

Does that answer your question?

Yeah, so there's three things I'll offer.

So one is I'm actually an emotional intelligence advisor as well.

So I am a huge fan of the emotional intelligence assessment for those that want data and are very cerebral.

It's not super expensive.

And what it shows by and large is it shows not just how intelligent you would be on a scale, but we're usually less concerned with that.

What we're looking at more is how aware are you of your emotions and how much are they getting in the way of your self-regulation?

And the thing I love about it is that unlike other psychometric assessments, it's not behavior, which typically doesn't change.

It takes a lot of work to change it over time.

It's skills.

So you can actually take the assessment and then decide, oh, I want to work on my emotional expression.