Kendra Dahlstrom

And I think you've summed that up very nicely in your question.

Yeah, that's such a great question.

So just to back up, I did therapy when I was 13, 14, 15, and then I stopped.

And then I got into coaching in my 20s.

So I was always very much the coaching methodology of, you know, looking forward, not really looking at causality and always moving forward.

Only in the last year, as my parents start to age and, you know, it became really pressing for me, like, oh, gosh, before they pass on, I really want to heal some of this stuff.

Like, I feel like there's things I'm not going to be able to say once they're gone.

but I need to do some work before I can say them, those kinds of things.

And so I went back to therapy, and I think Abigail's right in what she's saying.

I think it can become keeping you in the victim cycle.

It can keep you kind of beating a dead horse, pardon the analogy, but just really ruminating on something and feeling stuck and giving you an excuse to feel stuck.

I think this is where the power of slowing down really comes in,

And really giving yourself enough space and time to really sit.

And this is where somatics also comes in to feel in your body.

Am I just like, can be like, what am I benefiting from reliving this lie and ruminating on this story?

Because it's benefiting you somehow.

Cause that's why you keep doing it.

Like at the end of the day, even if it's like, oh, I get a, you know, I get a not do as well at work or I get a claim sick all the time or whatever the reason is, there's a benefit.

Um, and unfortunately that's just how things work or is, um, are you at a point where you just really have never addressed it?

Have you, have you stuffed it?