Kevin Twomey

Now, if you were having a conversation with another friend and you were like, oh my God, this person won't even do that for me.

And I did all this for them.

That's kind of understandable, but you can't like...

come into a relationship and be like, oh, well, this should be owed to me because I've done this for you.

No, like anytime you do anything for a friend or for someone you're in a relationship with, it should be done without any expectation of something nice being done for you in return.

Yeah, like it'd be nice if the other person is doing nice things too, but like...

If you are just doing it with the intention of getting one up or being like, okay, well, that's something else that I have in my arsenal, then you're doing it wrong.

I think that's one of the best things and one of the most freeing things that's happened to me in my 30s is like examining some of the friendships that I have and some of the relationships I have with people like

bit more closely or just like realizing or accepting like if those friendships don't serve me as much or if they feel a bit one-sided you know and maybe it's something that like i might have always been acutely aware of but because i was in my 20s and wasn't sure of myself i hated the idea of losing any friendships or relationships yeah like so i would i would

struggled through like even at my own detriment or even if it felt like that i was like the other person didn't care about me too much i'd be like well actually no that you know they're a nice person and you know they're going through their own shit but like sometimes you just have to kind of go you have to call it you have to call it which is sad but it just happens you don't you you'll have when in your 20s you will have 20 close friends in your 30s you'll have probably five exactly yeah there's actually an online riddle that apparently tells you whether you're a sociopath right

Isn't that the thing?

I think if someone was a sociopath, they wouldn't care.

I have no idea.

No.

You know that riddle?

What's that online riddle?

The horse's name is Friday.

One second.

Yeah, one second.

I need to tell you.