Kim Anami

But initially, as you're working up to that level of mastery, then, yeah, positions can matter.

But ultimately, the biggest marker of getting to these deeper experiences is surrender.

And like my definition of gourmet sex is when two people are coming together and you're completely open.

So no barriers, no hang ups, no walls put up.

You're fully abandoning yourself and opening yourself emotionally, energetically, sexually.

That's where you hit the goal.

That's the magic ingredient in gourmet sex.

And that's where you hit these.

And the more powerful they are, especially the more surrendered you are.

Yeah.

I mean, ideally, you are skin to skin and because condoms, well, condoms imply a level of barrier.

Like what's the barrier there for?

We don't know each other well enough.

We don't trust each other enough.

So I suppose that in itself is saying, OK, that level of trust isn't there.

but if you were to say somebody was using it for birth control and they did have that level of openness, they could still get there.

I'm not a lube for the ass.

Buckets of lube, all the lube you want, go for it.

But for vaginas, no, I don't recommend.

In fact, I forbid women to use lube.