Kim

But you might be like, we went to college together, and how can you just drop a college friend?

Yes, thank you.

I think think about the things that bond you with this friend.

Is it things that you still have values in common?

Or is it like just that you went through a certain experience together?

Because if it's just a certain experience, like you went through college, that doesn't mean you have to still keep someone...

around at the level you did then so you can still check in with people but it doesn't have to be like every week you're getting dinner or things like that i don't know really like how you wean down it is really hard but i think just setting those boundaries and being like i have this other plan um but let's do this day you know two weeks from now or whatever it is yeah do less of them yeah doing less and if they start being weird about it that's on them not on you right right

I've been a stay-at-home mom for 10 years, but now that my kids are a little older, I want to pursue a career and get a job, but I'm wondering how to confidently step into a chapter like this after so long at home.

I don't know if it's about finding what it is as much as feeling the confidence to try that new thing.

Right.

And also life isn't linear.

So it doesn't matter whether you did it when you were 20 versus now.

You're still allowed.

Give yourself that permission to try something new.

Right.

I want to move to a new city where I don't know anyone but I'm afraid of being lonely.

Is loneliness better than staying stuck?

Right, or in the same city, but find a new community.

Maybe it's the people, maybe it's the activities, or your job, or there's a lot of other factors before relocating.

That said, if you have ties to this new place or whatever, or well, I guess, yeah, I would say to try it.