Kristen

thinking about it now like yeah i would probably like move with caution but would still probably entertain it as like okay what if he's like ready now to date me or what if he's ready to actually like be serious now but then it also weighs on me that like how can i even think of pursuing something with someone who maybe exhibited behaviors that i necessarily wouldn't even like agree with or view as like a red flag and did you think he's potentially closeted where it's like he hasn't

Yeah, because it's like the main thing that the main red flag about it is when I had went out with him and I asked what he did the previous night, he mentioned he went to this bar and then another place.

And I'm not familiar with the area because I had just moved here.

So I didn't question it.

I just thought, oh, he went to these bars.

And then I ended up looking up the place, like the name of the place.

And it has a reputation where men will go to either,

engage with other men or experiment with other men and i mean i was shocked to see that but part of me is like okay maybe he went there with like a friend yeah i mean i was just gonna say like i i have a lot of gay friends i've been to gay bars yeah is there any other than like he frequented a couple gay bars yeah i mean it's i don't know if it would be considered like a gay bar it seems like more underground yeah

Yeah.

It has not a very good reputation from what I read.

And it's not a place where, yeah, we can all go out to this gay bar and have a good time.

Yeah.

Not like that.

But yeah, if I was actually going to date a person who went there, I mean, I would have

probably concern and would want to know, like, the context in which they were there.

But that's what I also question myself.

Like, I feel like I'm trying to believe he was just there under, you know, innocent, like, pretenses.

Yeah.

Right.

And I think that's what was hard.