Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
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Chapter 2: How can I effectively date multiple people at once?
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Chapter 3: What should I do if I feel I've ruined my perfect life?
I'm Abby and I'm 36 years old and I'm curious, how do I date like it's 2025?
What do you mean by that?
Well, I have been recently single again, and I'm used to dating as being more of a serial monogamist. So I usually date one person at a time. I usually fall pretty fast and I'm usually just right off to the races. But I'm trying to slow down a little bit, not chase the spark as much and date multiple people at once. And that's getting kind of messy.
I've actually started to like a couple different men at once. And it feels a little bit icky to me to be dating two people at once.
So just hearing your quick synopsis of like your, your dating life, it was, you know, I'm a serial monogamous. I'm used to like being in committed relationships. I fall fast, you know? Yeah. And now I'm trying something different. And the different you're trying is to date multiple people at once. And yeah. Again, I'm oversimplifying, but I'm just using your words.
The only thing that you've done differently is to be open to meeting multiple people at once in the hopes that that would slow you down. But there was no intentionality around slowing down. So all that's happened is now you've fallen for multiple guys quickly.
Yeah.
Yeah, I guess that's true. I mean, I have been trying to be intentionally a little bit slower, so definitely trying to slow down the pace with each of them, keep physical intimacy off the table for longer, pay more attention to how I'm feeling and evaluate that against my values and what I'm actually looking for now. So I've been trying to do that at the same time.
It just so happens that I somehow have enjoyed the company of two people at once, which I really wasn't expecting.
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Chapter 4: How do I navigate feelings for a guy who might be gay?
I don't want to say like masculine, but he's a little bit more take charge, take the lead. I feel like we have better banter. We have more fun together. And then he is also also just like asks a lot of questions, makes me feel really good about myself. So they're similar in that way, but just like very different logistically.
What do you mean by logistically?
I guess just in lifestyle.
Okay. How do they compare to your people you've dated in the past?
That's a good question. The one who's older and a bit more stable is very, very different. He's a lot more stable, a lot more.
Are you stable a lot? Are you attracted to instability?
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Chapter 5: What are the signs of a healthy relationship?
Yeah, I think that might be something I'm challenged with. I think I really like independent people. And I'm a, I'm someone who likes a lot of adventure in my life and likes to take paths that are like, I'm not a follow the traditional path kind of person necessarily. So yeah.
And that tends to lead to a lot of guys who are maybe less stable and stable in the traditional sense, just like not following a career ladder, not necessarily intent on marriage and kids. But this guy is more like that. And I think that balance is nice, but maybe a little too far away from what I'm maybe after.
What are you looking for in your life at this point?
I'm looking really for a partner and companionship. I don't have specifics about wanting to get married or have kids. I'd like to have a family presence in my life, but that to me doesn't need to be like the classic nuclear family. So yeah, I'm really more looking for someone who wants to be a partner and build something together.
But what that looks like is not necessarily like predetermined for me.
And is that how you've always been, or is that based off of how life has worked out for you as an adult?
That's how I've always been. I've never been really certain about kids, and I've been an entrepreneur and been kind of not necessarily interested in following standard protocol.
Well, I mean, in terms of answering your immediate question, you know, like... I mean, specifically how to date in 2025 is honestly just requires a lot more, I think, discipline than maybe in the past. Mostly because if you want to, you can have an abundance of options. Like, you know, you kind of pointed out, like I've kind of been more monogamous.
I've decided to open it up a little bit and wouldn't, you know, it, you know. Now you're attracted to, like, you have two things going on, which is fun and certainly might be, like, good practice for you, you know, to kind of compare and contrast, especially if you are dating men who are, like, pretty different, you know, and it's a good way to, like, see the difference.
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Chapter 6: How can I communicate better in my relationships?
Yeah, it was like early to mid 30s. Okay.
Yeah, I mean, that is the, I think, I think you are probably a perfect example of many of us. I mean, I would include myself in this, you know, before I met Natalie. It's just today's dating culture, I think, you know, I guess to go back to your, how you framed your question.
I think it's harder to navigate because I think we are allowed and we have the option or at least the perception of, I guess, being really selective and picky and the opportunity to want to have our cake and eat it too. That inherently makes our lives a little bit more complicated, you know, when we get a little more choosier. Also, it's hard to meet a goal without a specific plan.
And on some levels, you know, with anything in life, we need to be, the more intentional we are, the better chances that we have at, accomplishing whatever you want to accomplish. You know, like things happen when we make things happen a lot more quickly than when we let things happen. Now, when it comes to dating, you know, we're always like, don't force it. Let it play out, be open.
But the reality is, is that, you know, like for example, when I met Natalie, right? Like we've told the story a bunch of different ways, but like, you know, when it got to the point where she was like, you know, like either we're going to do this or we're not, you know, And I finally was just, like, kind of really thinking about, like, you know, my choices in the past.
And, you know, I had similar flings. You know, by similar, I mean, like, over the years, I was pretty much single for a long time, you know. But here or there, I had, you know, a couple situations where I was dating women for a period of time. I liked them. I enjoyed their company. It was nice. I was like, you know, that...
But, like, I just... There was something that stopped me from really moving forward, right? Probably is that, like, again, I was comparing it to, like, all these relationships I had in my 20s, my, you know, probably on some level my time on TV. The feeling of falling in love, I had a hard time replicating that, you know? And so I was just all very... unsure.
And then when it came back to like Natalie, I really had to like consciously make, I had to, I had this thought process of, I had been single for eight years, you know, eight years, you know, it's just like, you know, I'm like, I could have had like three girlfriends or, you know, four girl. I don't know.
I could have had a couple, a few girlfriends that have could have come and gone and I could still be in this place today. And I'm not saying I wish I would have dated any of these women. But my point is, I didn't try with any of them either.
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Chapter 7: What should I consider when dating someone younger?
We overthink a lot of things.
Yeah, this is resonating.
Yeah.
And so, yeah. And I, listen, I don't want to, I know like, I think it was maybe last week's episode and I talked about, I don't know, someone called about their job and I was like, you know, your profession doesn't make you happy.
And I knew it would, but like, and obviously I know my audience and coming from my perspective, I'm not trying to tell people like to get married or have a family or like do the whole, I mean, obviously that's been great for me. My whole point is, is like, listen, no one's meant to be alone. I don't care what your family looks like, right?
Like just be, have it be friends, people you can invest in. I just think sometimes that like, and I've been you, right? When I met Natalie, I was like, I still wanna have kids, I'm not getting married. And I think it was this, I was so independent and single for so long, I was able to be like, I don't need the traditional shit.
And I'm not saying people need it, but I guess my point is when I talk about intentionality and people talk about wanting to have a partner and wanting to have a family, I think in 2025, society has allowed us to like break down some of those traditional norms, right? We don't need them. And I think there's truth. We don't need them. I think there's a lot of ways to do things.
And then you can get into the whole like argument about how like silly marriage laws are and how outdated and antiquated they can be and yada, yada, yada. But I guess what I'm saying is there's no clear alternative. What's the alternative? And so when people go into dating life and kind of be like, well, I'm looking for a life partner, but whatever that looks like, I'm fine with.
I think people just, you know what I'm saying? It's hard to be intentional.
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Chapter 8: How do I handle the emotional fallout from a breakup?
No, I think that's fair. I think I am trying to find the balance of moving slow enough that I don't overlook red flags while still... choosing someone that I have the right chemistry with. And yeah, I think dating these two guys at the same time has been really challenging for me because I would prefer to just pick one and invest in that one relationship and see where it goes.
How old are these men?
Late 30s, early 40s.
What questions are you asking them about their past relationships?
Oh, that's a good question about their past relationships. I think I delved into it more with the slightly older divorced guy because I wanted to understand the divorce and the reasons, what he'd learned from that relationship, what he's looking for differently this time, what he thinks he needs out of a partner in the future and what he wants since he already has done marriage and kids.
The other guy had been a little bit more
loose with because he's seen he presents as more of like a free spirit energy so to me i haven't probed as deeply to him on you know what he's looking for or like what he's learned from his past relationships as much okay what's his relationship with his ex-wife uh civil now they share kids so they have to how many kids two have you learned anything from that Yes, I've learned a lot.
I think he seems to have done a lot of post-divorce soul searching to understand why the relationship devolved and why he's learned a lot from his kids. He's actually sat around being more emotionally present for them because he wasn't necessarily that way for his wife. And so, yeah, I think he's, for me, he has said all of the right things and done all of the right things.
And I'm just maybe doing what you said around like putting up my own guard around, okay, well, he's already had the marriage. He has kids. He's probably less interested in having more kids if that was something I wanted. He's a lot more buttoned down than I am. So is that the kind of
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