Kristin Cavallari

I think a lot of times I can start early in childhood of needing to please a parent.

And so you start to slowly lose little pieces of yourself because it's easier to do what you think your parent wants you to do to not get in trouble or not get in the way.

And so over time, you just slowly start to lose...

checking in with yourself and realizing what you ultimately want.

So I think that's why it's really hard for a lot of people.

But if I could really like those two things, if I could really hammer those into my kids of be so authentic that you know that's also going to piss people off because people really...

People who are really insecure and self-conscious really get triggered by authenticity.

And so, yeah, it's going to piss people off, but you're going to live a much happier life by being so locked in on who you are and living your life for you.

So those are really, really important.

And then actually kind of going off of that, right?

So if authenticity is going to trigger a lot of people and piss people off, then there's kind of two things here.

So other people's opinions of you have nothing to do with you.

Nothing, nothing, nothing.

It literally has nothing to do with you.

That is about them, which is also why you can't take things personally.

And if you guys haven't read the book, The Four Agreements, it's a really easy read.

It's something you guys should just have that you can, you know, however often refer back to it.

But basically it's saying there's four things that you need in life to live a happy life.

And one of them is that you can't take things personally because

Whatever people are dealing with and why ever they're triggered by, whatever it is you're doing, it has nothing to do with you.