Kristin Cavallari

They don't understand what dad is doing and

They don't understand that you're taking out your hurt on them when it has nothing to do with them.

So you have to show up for your kids still.

And you have to just trust in the process and trust that this is temporary and everyone's going to figure it out at some point.

And you just have to have faith in that.

And you have to find other things to keep you calm, to regulate your nervous system, to breathe.

You have to breathe and you have to not try to compete with him, but you do have to be the grounding, stable, consistent force for your kids because this Santa Claus, Disneyland fun dad is actually going to start to be a little unstable and it's going to go up and down and your kids are going to start to notice it and you have to be their consistency and their stability.

And trust in the bigger plan.

I know it's really, really hard.

It's really hard.

And it can potentially be the hardest thing you'll go through.

And you get to then, in however many years, say...

I was the best mom and that didn't rock me.

Maybe on the inside, it was tearing me apart, but my kids didn't see that version of me.

And then you get to be really proud of yourself.

So it's an opportunity to be an even better mom than you were already going to be and an opportunity to really work on yourself and to not get triggered and not react to other people's bullshit.

So you've got this.

Stay strong.

I get it.

Okay, you guys, thank you so much for submitting your questions as always.