A Man Who Trashes His Ex Is Not Over Her — Dating Dilemmas Pt. 2
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Hey, we are back for part two of Dating Dilemmas. New week for you guys listening, but I'm just rolling right into it. Always so many good ones. It's tough out there in the real world, guys. That's all I know by doing these. Okay. Let's just jump right back in, shall we? Are you really that busy or forgetful? You go 24 hours plus without responding. He doesn't have kids. No. No one's that busy and no one forgot. Or if he forgot, it's because he doesn't care about you. Even with kids. No. No. Here's what I will say, though. I think it's OK if a guy isn't blowing you up constantly. And I think it's OK, I guess. OK, if let's say that you were texting and you asked him a question and he didn't respond for over 24 hours.
I think that's a red flag. However, if you guys are texting and the conversation just sort of has a lull, like it doesn't necessarily require a response. And then 24 hours later, he texts you. I think that is perfectly okay. And in fact, I think that's kind of healthy. I think that's actually a good thing. which a couple of years ago, you guys, that would have made me a little nervous. Let's say not, maybe not nervous, but I would have been like, oh my God, did I say something wrong? Well, okay. Yeah. Nervous, nervous, anxious. I guess is that an anxious attachment style where now in my more healed, calmed, nervous system. And when I've had a little more experience with this, I've realized that's a good thing.
That is a good thing. And we do want to be with guys who are busy and have a life, even if they don't have kids, you know, they're working and they're doing things. We don't want a guy who's texting us all the time. But I think it's, I think, I think you trust your gut on this. First of all, I think, you know, we all know you guys, we all know, we all know. I think if you are worried about it and you feel like you need to ask me, I think you know that the answer is probably that's your gut telling you something is up. I also think if... Like if some if he's like really good at texting and really attentive and there's a consistent, a semi consistent text going. And then I don't know, like once or twice a week, he kind of goes radio silent for like 24 hours plus.
What should I do if a guy takes too long to respond to my texts?
You could start to maybe say there might be someone else in the mix, you know, but also he could be with another girl and also respond to. So, I mean, it just depends. But I think ultimately what happens in these situations is if you guys have a gut feeling, it's probably right. But again, if it's just if it's just a lull in conversation, I think that's fine. Dating when you have a younger kid and a narcissist ex. Okay, here's what you do in this situation. You, first of all, don't tell the narcissist ex fucking anything. And when I mean you give that man as little information as possible... That's what I mean. They should know virtually nothing about what's going on in your life because they will use everything.
So and it sounds like your kid is young. Your kid doesn't need to know you're going on a date. Let's say you get a babysitter. Mommy's going to go out with some friends like they don't need to know everything. You know, my kids are nosy as fuck, though, but my kids are older and also I don't do anything. So. But I think if you're dealing, if anyone is dealing with a narcissist ex, it's imperative they know as little as possible about what's going on in your life. And so, but it can be done, obviously. Why does this ex need to have any sort of information about you? You're allowed to get a babysitter and go on a date and he doesn't have to know anything about that. Or if he does, it's none of his business who you're with.
And that needs to be the message every time you're out, no matter who you're with.
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