Kyle Sandilands

I've got a lot of support.

Life just feels a lot lighter.

I bet it does.

When you were with this man in the beginning, I mean, it would have started slow, I'm assuming.

Is that right?

Like it was drip fed until you kind of were so thick in it that you didn't even realise?

Yeah.

Yeah, in the beginning it felt quite intense and there was constant communication, lots of affection and big talks about the future.

He did make me feel chosen and safe and I think a few weeks in, small things started to shift.

Like he expected, apologies for that explanation.

Would question my movement and friend control his concern.

He would often say I'd crossed boundaries.

I mean, you're taught to respect people's boundaries.

So I thought complying meant I was being a good partner.

And it really escalated during my pregnancy and after our daughter...

I guess when I was most vulnerable.

So you also talk about how you trauma bonded in the beginning.

Can you explain to our listeners what trauma bonding is?

Yeah, so a trauma bond kind of forms when abuse is mixed with movements of affection, remorse and promises of change.

So your nervous system becomes attached to the cycle itself.