Lael Stone

That's huge.

And, you know, one of the questions I often ask parents all the time, if you could go back in time to a time where it was tricky or hard or...

painful you know what would you want from your parents in that moment and everyone says the same thing I want them just to listen I want them to be present with me I want them to hear me like and that's what you're trying to do here and it's it's hard in the moment but it's the simplicity of it that really is often we what we have to remember is to come back to its presence and acceptance and that that listening which is so so profound and

And I often talk about this generation of parents, how we're doing such massive work because we're healing our stuff as we are trying to raise our kids in a different way.

And it's not easy.

It's messy.

But what a gift to this next generation of children who, as you say, that is their normal.

Like my daughters will often say that, like the normal thing is to lean towards the discomfort and talk about it.

right?

And I'm like, oh, that took me till I was like 40 to actually do, right?

Whereas they're like, oh no, if it's hard, you sit down, you have a conversation, you feel it, and then you process it.

And I'm like, that's massive.

That's massive for that to be their normal way of, and they also say like sometimes that I want to, but I also know that that's where I've got to get to.

And I'm like that we've done a good job because if that's what they're thinking, that's amazing.

That's amazing.

Um, you mentioned just that being parentified, um, you know, and, and taking care of your mom on some level.

And it's really interesting, I think, in our society, because what that does sometimes for the child is it makes them grow up.

It makes them be quite mature.

They know how to take care of things.

They all say, you know, I don't need any help.