Laura Danger

This shows up at work.

This shows up in our partnerships and our friendships and our families.

It is a way of skirting accountability or responsibility.

And often it is its power comes from emotional labor.

So emotional labor is, it's the self-editing that you do in order to create an emotional environment or to maintain a relationship.

It is the tone, your body language, the ways that despite how you are feeling in that moment, you are affecting other people.

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And there is you bring up a really good point.

So there is emotional labor and cognitive labor are like rope tangled up together.

And this there's this mental load, like you said, of we've got a diaper.

We have to check all of the emails.

We have all of these things on our schedule.

What's in the fridge?

What's coming up in our lives?

What's happening today?

And all of these things fit together like a big machine.

You need to know all of the parts of it in order for it to run smoothly.

And when you are the one managing all of that, when you're the domestic engineer, the person who is directing and giving directions, there's the mental, the thought and the planning and the scheduling and the

There is this work you have to do to get other people to do it while maintaining a positive relationship.

You've got to get your kid to get in the car to go to the doctor appointment and still feel safe.