Laura Danger

So there's a ton of emotional, mental energy.

Decision fatigue comes from that.

And that's all invisible work that we wrap up as like a mother's love.

Oftentimes it's very gendered.

And we're taught that this is how things are.

It's just this invisible stuff that just happens in our lives.

This is just what happens.

And so it is not always malicious, but sometimes it is.

It's not.

And you know what's really interesting about this is a lot of people will get into a partnership and say, you know, we both believe in equity.

We want an equal partnership.

And one person will do a ton of planning and coordinating and making decisions that are thoughtful of the family unit.

And then we'll ask the other partner, yes or no, do you agree?

And then after the fact, if they have given their opinion, they both get equal credit for making that decision.

There is this illusion that you have now collaborated on something because one person did this massive amount of planning and the other person said yes or no.

This is very unfair.

This is the norm.

This is the standard.

This is across the board.

And it's not always in heterosexual, cishet relationships.