Laura Danger

This is something that you see across the board in many types of relationships, but it's very heteronormative.

And this, again, this is the norm in most households.

There is inequity in the cognitive and emotional and physical labor.

Yes, it doesn't seem to matter whether a woman is making less, as much, or more than her partner.

The only time you see a slight small smidge of a difference is if she is the sole breadwinner.

And even then, it's not it's not in the way that, you know, we would hope that it would be.

I think one of the most obvious ones is with the groceries.

So a lot of times someone will say, like, I know, you know, the groceries are such a stress for you.

You're always talking about the meals.

Let me take it over.

And then they will say, just give me a list and I will go to the store.

Or even I will cook the dinner or just let me know what you want.

I'll go order something for the family.

That does not solve the problem.

Exactly.

That's I hear that a lot about like, oh, great.

You get the shortcut meal now that you've taken that off my plate.

Now I can't have the shortcut meal later in the week.

Exactly.

You didn't tell me what to get.