Laurel van der Toorn
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1,424 appearances
7 recordings
1 series
first heard Jan 2026
last heard 10 Apr
Laurel van der Toorn’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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For some people, one of those emotions might be louder than the other, but that doesn't mean that the others are not salient.
I would.
I mean, it's complicated because particularly for women raising children, there's a whole lot of social conditioning about what it means to be a good mom.
And women are just kind of socialized to be self-sacrificing.
And I do a lot of work with my clients around like, nope, you have to take care of yourself first.
I also see this self-neglect pattern showing up in other areas besides parenting, people with unhealthy relationships with work or people in really enmeshed, codependent, romantic relationships where they forget themselves.
And that's a really tough one to unlearn.
But yes, ultimately, you are responsible for meeting your own needs unless you are a child.
I would just challenge any expectation you have of your adult children.
I mean, there's unfortunate scripts around like, oh, well, if you have kids, they'll take care of you when you're old.
Mm-mm.
Yeah, I know.
They didn't agree to that, again.
Yeah.
Unless there was some kind of toxicity in the relationship to begin with.
Right.
But but yes, if you had a great, healthy, loving, close relationship with them as a kid and somewhat as a teen, like it could be a phase in their 20s.
Thank you.
I'm Sheriff of Edgewater.
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