Leah (Caller)

I take care of the house.

It's just like, and then that's what I get.

Right.

So ultimately I think it comes down to, you know, um, when should we look into starting couples counseling?

Um, you know, cause he is starting his own therapy for the first time in a while.

Um, so he's starting that this week.

Um,

So kind of just gauging like when is a good time to start couples therapy, you know, and also outside judgment on my end for wanting to stay and make my family work.

Cause I already lost a few friends over this.

I got told I didn't have any self-respect or self-worth, you know?

Yeah, that's what my therapist and I just talked about last night.

It's also, that's why I wanted to call to rebuild my self-confidence too, after, you know, getting hurt.

Cause she's like, you know, your light shines when you talk about your photography.

She's like, I'd love to work on that more with you.

She goes, but you're beating yourself up for everything.

And it's true, you know?

It's just like, what if I did this different or what if I did that different?

And, you know, my postpartum was really difficult.

So it's just like, did I push him to the point of needing validation elsewhere?

And it's like, I can't beat myself up over that.