Leah Ruppanner

And then they felt incredibly guilty when they took time to rest and recover.

Part of the reason why this is something that is being experienced by

mothers and women in particular.

And this is sometimes I write in the book, it's not that men are heartless.

It's just, they're not living in the same social world you're living in.

So it doesn't feel as heavy for them because it's not as heavy for them.

They don't feel the consequences of getting this wrong because the consequences for them are less.

The reason why that is true is because women are expected to be caring, thoughtful, kind, considerate, and giving all the time.

And the perception of the consequences for, quote unquote, getting it wrong or forgetting something can feel like...

never ending, right?

And the result of that is that a lot of mothers are totally burnt out.

They never feel like they're doing enough.

That is such an unfair way to expect someone to move through the world.

And they're not making this up, right?

Like they're not micromanagers.

They're not perfectionists.

They're not, you know, just anxious or unable to relax.

The issue is, is that we hold women to a different standard.

So we ran this study where we had a messy room, right?

A messy room and a clean room.