Leah Ruppanner

It's the exact same room.

One is messy.

One is clean.

So the study had two parts.

So this idea that men can't see the mess or the dirt, nonsense.

And then we asked like, okay, well, what would you think about Jennifer in terms of her moral character based on this room?

They might say like, well, I wouldn't judge her, but I know other people are going to judge her based on the status of this room.

And so when I say this to people in the world and in particular women, it's this kind of validation moment of like, yeah, I know that if someone comes into my house and it is a mess, they are going to think that I am responsible for that.

And they're going to view me as less...

Not just messy, but like less great as a human based on the status in my room.

But they're not punishing the men in the same way.

Now this is the staying on top of the planning and the tasks.

You will do this in your home life.

This is like, do we have everything we need at home?

But you also do this at work, like making sure your work is organized and your social life is organized too.

The second one is emotional support.

So this might be something where you're sitting in a meeting with a coworker or you're sitting across the dinner table from your child or a parent or a friend and you're looking at them and thinking, are they okay?

I can't tell what's going on.

I'm looking at their face.

They seem a little bit depressed.