Leah Ruppanner

or they seem a little bit off or maybe frustrated.

But in our home lives, you might do this when your child has a new friend and you want to connect in with their parent or you want to give them a play date.

You might be thinking about, you know, the loneliness of an aging parent.

Do they have people showing up?

How do I bring new people in?

The fourth, magic making is the work of making sure traditions

are carried on and events feel special.

Life feels special.

This was one of the categories that I heard mothers say I have lost my own ability to dream.

Next, individual upkeep.

The things you need to do to keep fit and healthy.

Have I gone for the walk?

Do I need to get my hair cut?

Have I had the dentist appointment?

And then there's safety.

This is one that actually mothers and fathers carried heavily and men tend to talk a lot about.

I'll say I've collected data from 5,000 people recently in the US.

This is one of the high ones that come up.

For those who are African American or Latino.

So this is why I'm saying to you, it will fluctuate and shift over time, right?