Leah

I think when I first wrote in, it was we were at kind of a point in the relationship where there wasn't a lot of acknowledgement from him about the dynamic of the relationship.

And it had been a year and a bit of me telling him constantly how uncomfortable I felt or that I wanted him to set some more boundaries with his relationship.

partner.

And then it started to show up as for me feeling like he was just being a bit more sneaky or withholding the conversations or stuff that was going out on on the other side, like a little cagey, a little Yeah, and I was getting this gut feeling like what's going on over here.

And I bring it to his attention.

And he's really good.

Like,

an amazing partner in that he will listen to my feelings.

So I was constantly saying something doesn't make sense.

Like you're telling me this, but your actions aren't matching up with your words.

And I'm not feeling like the priority.

And then I think when I wrote in, I had found out more information about how they were like finance, there was still these financial pieces and legal ties to their relationship that I wasn't privy to.

So I just felt like all this stuff kept coming up throughout our relationship.

And every time I'd be like, I'd pull away because that's usually my go to is to just like pull away a little bit.

And then he would kind of come in and be like, everything's like I'm going to work on this or figure it out.

And then I would trust again and like fall back into our routines and then something else would come up.

So when I wrote in, it was kind of like I had hit a breaking point in the relationship where I was.

And there was never any separation agreement or anything in place.

So the ex was very much wanted to control everything.

It was very messy.