Leila Hormozi

You're still like, yeah, right. But the thing that I've realized is if I act the opposite of that. So if I allow people to capture me without makeup, if I don't wear makeup to work every day, if I don't do my hair and look perfect every day, then the thoughts of judgment start to get less loud.

And so I think for a lot of women, we're so feared, we're so fearful of being judged for not upholding the standards that society puts on us. And it's not the standards that are the problem. It's the fear of the standards and the judgment that we put on ourselves about them. You know, men also have standards that they fear to fail or fear that they're not living up to. Everyone does.

And so I think for a lot of women, we're so feared, we're so fearful of being judged for not upholding the standards that society puts on us. And it's not the standards that are the problem. It's the fear of the standards and the judgment that we put on ourselves about them. You know, men also have standards that they fear to fail or fear that they're not living up to. Everyone does.

I think that just for women, the ones that hold them back are the ones that I look at and I just say, like, is it making it harder or easier for me to achieve my goals if I judge myself for this?

I think that just for women, the ones that hold them back are the ones that I look at and I just say, like, is it making it harder or easier for me to achieve my goals if I judge myself for this?

And for me, usually it makes it harder to achieve my goals if I'm judging myself every moment that I'm on camera, every moment that I'm making content because I see those women, it's like they can put out a lot less. And when you put out a lot less content and you're not able to show up in front of your team unless you look a certain way and you do all these things, well then,

And for me, usually it makes it harder to achieve my goals if I'm judging myself every moment that I'm on camera, every moment that I'm making content because I see those women, it's like they can put out a lot less. And when you put out a lot less content and you're not able to show up in front of your team unless you look a certain way and you do all these things, well then,

you get less practice at doing that thing. And I think it just all stems from judgment because, I mean, you would be shocked at the amount of people that are just afraid to be on camera because they're not the exact weight that they want. They don't look like a thin model. They don't look like what beauty standards are today.

you get less practice at doing that thing. And I think it just all stems from judgment because, I mean, you would be shocked at the amount of people that are just afraid to be on camera because they're not the exact weight that they want. They don't look like a thin model. They don't look like what beauty standards are today.

And that actually stops women from being in business, showing up the way they want, speaking on stages, doing podcasts, making content. It's this fear of judgment. Yeah. And I think that before you change, because maybe it is good if you lose weight. Maybe it is good if you, you know, turn this, that. But that is separate from the fear of judgment of others for not being perfect all the time.

And that actually stops women from being in business, showing up the way they want, speaking on stages, doing podcasts, making content. It's this fear of judgment. Yeah. And I think that before you change, because maybe it is good if you lose weight. Maybe it is good if you, you know, turn this, that. But that is separate from the fear of judgment of others for not being perfect all the time.

You know, I think that it's probably learning that perfect is an impossible task. And in trying to be perfect, you're probably much less likable. You know, I think for a long time, I just tried to be what everybody else wanted me to be. Really? To be perfect in the eyes of everyone. Like, how can I be the perfect leader? How can I be the perfect wife? How can I be the perfect boss?

You know, I think that it's probably learning that perfect is an impossible task. And in trying to be perfect, you're probably much less likable. You know, I think for a long time, I just tried to be what everybody else wanted me to be. Really? To be perfect in the eyes of everyone. Like, how can I be the perfect leader? How can I be the perfect wife? How can I be the perfect boss?

How can I be the perfect friend? How can I be the perfect daughter? And that led me to be miserable, which actually led me to be less liked by everybody. Because I was just trying to be what everybody else wanted me to be rather than what I wanted to be.

How can I be the perfect friend? How can I be the perfect daughter? And that led me to be miserable, which actually led me to be less liked by everybody. Because I was just trying to be what everybody else wanted me to be rather than what I wanted to be.

And like, maybe I am a bad daughter at times. I don't call my dad sometimes for weeks. Maybe I am a bad friend. I don't text my friends back for sometimes a week or two. And sometimes I'm like, I just don't feel like talking. Like, maybe I am a bad boss because today I canceled my meeting with somebody. Like, I think I've had to accept that at times...

And like, maybe I am a bad daughter at times. I don't call my dad sometimes for weeks. Maybe I am a bad friend. I don't text my friends back for sometimes a week or two. And sometimes I'm like, I just don't feel like talking. Like, maybe I am a bad boss because today I canceled my meeting with somebody. Like, I think I've had to accept that at times...

We are all the opposite of what we want to be. And that's okay. And so like the best advice I can give anyone is like I take that, I call it the I am bad frame. I am bad at times in certain circumstances. Like at times in certain circumstances, I am bad at something or I am a bad wife, a bad boss, a bad friend. And?

We are all the opposite of what we want to be. And that's okay. And so like the best advice I can give anyone is like I take that, I call it the I am bad frame. I am bad at times in certain circumstances. Like at times in certain circumstances, I am bad at something or I am a bad wife, a bad boss, a bad friend. And?

And I think for a long time, even just saying I'm a bad boss and visceral reaction because I was just like, I put so much pressure on myself to be the perfect boss. But the reality is, is that if you want to be great at anything, you're going to be imperfect. judged and disliked at times.