Leslie John

You know, it's if I share how I feel about myself, then my partner knows me better.

And that's fundamentally intimacy building.

If I tell him the practical thing that I slept crappily, well, then he's going to know that the rest of the day he's got to like kind of treat me with kid gloves because he knows me, but he can't read my mind.

Thanks so much for having me.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering if you shared too much?

Or have you stayed silent in conversations to not share because you were afraid of what your partner or your friend might think of you?

If you've ever wondered what you should share to your boss, your co-worker, or your intimate partner to make sure you have the best relationship, this conversation is for you.

Really?

She's a Harvard Business School professor, award-winning researcher and author who has been featured in the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and The Economist, where she teaches the art and science of communication.

Leslie, thank you so much for being here.

What happens to a person inside of them when they decide not to share what's really going on when those things start to pile up?

I'm excited because you've been studying the art of undersharing and oversharing and the power of why we should be more vulnerable in our sharing and share more versus being silent.

And when we are silent in relationships, in relationships,

relationships with people in our lives, it actually can hurt us.

And I'm curious, why does it hurt us being silent in relationships, undersharing, or not being vulnerable versus oversharing in relationships?

And is this in friendships, coworker relationships, or intimate relationships?

So you need to keep oversharing the longer you're in a relationship?

Wow.

Okay.

So you've been married twice.