Leslie John

You're like on the road, but it would be too much to tell everybody all the gore about it, right?

Like that's just not necessary.

That's like bringing everyone down.

They just need to know that you're doing better.

You've addressed the thing and you have the maturity to

to help yourself and to get the tools you need.

That's kind of going into detail about all the ins and outs of the problem.

Another one would be, this is one that Allison, who I know, I actually, her book is right behind you.

Alison Brooks's book, Talk.

Her take is you should never say, if you have to cancel or you have a conflict, you should never give the reason why, because that's TMI.

Because she's like, there's never a reason that's good enough.

So you should just say, I can't make it.

My take is different.

I think that you often should give the answer, but only if the answer is actually a good, unassailable answer.

my child is sick, that's unassailable.

And people understand more and then they empathize with you.

But what would be a bad example of that is if it feels selfish or if it feels like you are putting yourself

above the other person.

And most explanations do that.

But there are some, like children are an unassailable reason.