Leslie John

Social connections are like, we are herd animals, and if we don't have them, then we die.

Yeah, if nobody cares about us, then we're excommunicated.

Yeah.

In my 30s, I found myself divorced and single again, and so I was navigating online dating.

And looking back, I realized I did the exact wrong thing to attract a mate in the sense that when I got to the date, and if I was like, uh, not super into this guy—

I would just keep asking him questions because I'm like, at least I'll learn something about him.

Like I learned about robotic knot tie, 3D knot tires and like all these random things that I never knew existed.

I know that's a really dirty one, isn't it?

No, I actually did not want to date an academic.

That's like a thumbs down.

That's a negative in the grandmaster regression equation of my dating life.

But yeah, it was the exact wrong thing because then those are the guys that are like...

Yeah.

And then by contrast, when I was really into the guy, I'm a very gut person on these kinds of things.

When I was really into him, I would find myself selling, like pitching.

And then fortunately, I realized it kind of midway through that I was doing the wrong thing.

Yeah.

But it's interesting how the instincts and like I study this stuff and my intuition was like completely wrong.

Oh, my gosh.

So, we love beautiful people.