Leslie John

And we did many, many studies to try to understand why this was happening and why it was not happening.

In the end, what we discovered was that the preference for a revealer is driven by a global character judgment.

The person who conceals is not to be trusted, so much so that we'd rather date someone, we'd rather employ someone, we'd rather even sit next to the subway besides someone who comes clean, even if it's not the greatest thing to say.

Yeah, so the impact bias is...

How we tend to overestimate the longevity of emotional events.

So we think that when we break up with someone or if someone breaks up with us, we think we're going to be down in the dumps for a very, very long time slash eternity.

Right.

When reality, when that happens, like we're often surprised to see like, yeah, it sucks, but we're better sooner than we think.

Similarly, we think the highs last longer than they do.

Like, you know, we get a raise.

We think we'll be like feeling amazing for a really long time, but that we quickly adapt and it quickly subsides.

So the impact bias refers to how we overestimate the duration and intensity of emotional events.

It's really fascinating because what they found was that

In the short run, we tend to regret the things we did that resulted in bad outcomes, so-called sins of commission.

So in disclosure language, you say something, maybe you're a little tipsy, you say something, you feel like you go a little bit too far at a dinner party.

The next morning, you have a massive disclosure hangover where you're that gut-wrenching, oh, why did I do that?

And you just wanna hide.

And that sucks.

And so we regret that a lot.

So in the short run, right after, we regret the things we do, the regrettable things that we did.