Leslie John

It's one of these like flashbulb memories for me.

You know, you remember exactly what you were wearing and where you were seated.

Yeah.

So he just starts with a bang.

He says, what about bestiality?

Oh, man.

And so, yeah, I was like the person that I'm most trying to impress said that.

And so I was like, what do I do?

Do I do I go for something super sensitive like that in my the things that I bring to the table brainstorming?

I felt like everything I said then was like, maybe he's going to think I'm a prude.

Or then if I said something really bad, like, have you ever neglected to tell a partner about an STD you had?

Then he'd think I was reckless.

And just even the thought of that, that I am worrying about my advisor, like it just, oh gosh, it was so cringy.

But we got through it.

We powered through and we came up with a great list.

And I've since been using those questions and variations on those themes for kind of my career so far.

Okay, so yeah, the questions, be warned, they're doozies.

If you have children around,

Have you ever had sex with the current husband, wife, or partner of a friend?

Have you ever had a fantasy of doing something terrible, e.g.