Lewis Howes

Okay, so social rejection, eye roll, a sigh.

Right, looking away, distancing behavior, when we pull our head back and when I angle my head back, you know I've just disengaged from you.

Crossing arms, sudden nonverbal rejection.

Turning, yes.

Oh, we can talk about feet.

Okay, we can talk about feet.

Okay, so social rejection cues, and you know this.

If you're in a business meeting and you suddenly feel like, am I disliked?

He doesn't like this, she doesn't like this.

When we see a cue of social rejection, our field of vision increases.

We literally see wider.

Our pupils dilate so we see more.

The reason why that study was like a light bulb for me was our cues are affecting others' physiology.

Our physiology can change in a room in an instant.

If we walk into a meeting and we feel not liked, if we feel rejected, if we feel like we're being judged,

Our own physiology responds.

So if we're in a room and we're not feeling confident or in control and someone sends us a cue of rejection, one, you want to know what those are because it makes your field of vision bigger so you can see who else is sending me a cue, what's my escape route.

That's literally what your body is trying to do.

Ups your adrenaline, ups your cortisol.

And no one can think well.