Lewis Howes

Adrenaline, cortisol.

That's why in a meeting it can go downhill so quickly.

You're in a presentation, you prepare it all week.

Oh.

And then you're like, oh, he just rolled his eyes.

Oh, she just turned away.

Oh, I just saw a weird foot movement.

And then you lose your spot.

You blank out, and the rest of the presentation goes badly.

The good news is is what Matthew Lieberman found.

This is from UCLA.

Once you label a cue, so if you say that was an eye roll, that was a scoff of exasperation, that was a contempt smirk, the moment you label it, your amygdala calms down.

They've proven that when people are in FMRI machines and they show them a fearful face, so fearful face is when we widen the whites of our eyes and we raise our eyebrows up.

If you're laying in an FMRI machine and you see fear, you will begin to feel afraid.

Your amygdala begins to activate and your body goes, well, if he's afraid, I better be afraid.

But the moment you say in the FMRI, whew,

that's just fear, your amygdala stops responding.

So I think I've had a really hard time finding confidence.

It's been a long lifetime journey.

The way that I've sort of backdoored into confidence is control.