Lewis Howes

This is why if you open People Magazine's Sexiest Man Alive, on almost every page, along with a flexed bicep, are flexed lids.

And that is because women find a flexed lid, oh, so attractive.

Is it sexy?

Yes, because why?

Women and men both want partners who are deeply scrutinizing, who are deeply looking at them.

So if I'm sitting when talking to you and I go, oh, really?

I just showed you, wow, that was super interesting.

In fact, when we flex our lids, we're going from just listening to thinking deeply.

We're literally trying to see something better.

So if you're in a negotiation or on a date or with a friend and they go, really?

And they harden their lower lids, you are like, ooh, ding, ding, I just hit something good.

And so the other way that we control cues is, OK, let's say that you're, and this actually happened to me.

So this is a story I share in the book.

I was in a meeting with a very high-powered exec team.

And if the presentation went well, they were going to invite me back for more presentations.

So the stakes were very high.

And it was a small group.

And I was in a particular part of my presentation talking about chemicals.

And I noticed an executive across the room fluxes lower lids at me, kind of fluxes lower lids.

He's looking at the slide.