Lewis Howes

It's what it does.

It's like a faithful Labrador.

If you get a stick and you throw a stick for your Labrador, it's going to go get it.

Now, what most people do is they throw lousy sticks.

You throw a question and you get this moldy stick and you throw it in the swamp and the Labrador comes and drops it back on your clean carpet.

You ask the question, why am I not good enough?

Why does this happen to me?

Why am I unlucky?

Your brain's going to fetch the stick.

because you're a schmuck, because your teacher said you weren't good enough, because your elder brother got all the attention.

Whatever it is, the mind's job is to rationalize and justify.

That's what it does.

Not based on truth, based on trying to close the loop.

The brain doesn't like to live in the space of a question.

That's what makes cliffhangers or page turners, because we need to know what's happening next.

So you learn to ask better questions.

Again, if you're in through me, you're asking questions, as I say, instead of why is this happening to me?

It's like, okay, what can I learn from this that serves me?

What's great about this I've not noticed yet?

What could make this fun for me and something that's boring?