Lewis Howes

A feeling.

There isn't a feeling that at your age or most ages by the time you're 20, your brain doesn't neurologically understand or hasn't experienced at some point.

You know how to create it.

So what you're really saying is that in by me, and this is kind of the curse of by me, the white rabbit, is that when I achieve a certain level that I have internally arbitrarily set as a point, I will then give myself permission to feel a feeling that I could actually feel now.

But I'm refusing to do that because my rules for what has to happen for me to have that permission are set in some sort of achievement criteria externally.

Instead of just being now.

Here's a great analogy.

Let's say you win a round-the-world trip.

You entered a competition, you're in a waiting room, you got bored, you're online, you entered something, and a month later, you get a notification, you've won on all expenses, round-the-world trip, dream trip, 20 different destinations, everything on your bucket list, the Northern Lights, the Pyramids, Antarctica, Angkor Wat in Cambodia, all of these things.

First class, you've got jets, you've got cruise ships, you've got everything.

You are so excited.

And you can take one person with you, obviously, if you would be Martha, right?

But you call your friend and you say, oh my goodness, you're not going to believe this.

We're emotional creatures.

We're designed to share.

We experience emotion through connection.

So you call a friend or you're talking, I've just won this amazing round the world trip.

I'm just looking through the itinerary.

And before you can get to the second place that you're going to, your friend cuts you off and says, oh, what's your final destination?

You're like, well, I'll get to that.