Lewis Howes

with clarity and kindness, people started respecting me differently.

Now, I didn't always get people to like that.

You know, right when you start creating boundaries, especially if you've been a people pleaser your entire life, let me know if that's been you.

If you've ever been a people pleaser and you start creating boundaries, it rubs people the wrong way.

People don't like it.

Some people will respect it, but some people get really frustrated with you.

And this is a test.

This is a test for you to say, okay, I ruffled some feathers.

People started saying things about me that I've changed.

And you have to see if you're willing to step forward and own your power and be okay with the mess of people not liking you for people to respect you.

But it's very uncomfortable when you first start practicing it.

That's why it takes time.

It takes reps.

It takes consistency to develop that respect muscle by saying no to people.

And again, I said with kindness and clarity.

I didn't say be a jerk.

I didn't say, you know, put people down to get them to respect you.

kindness and clarity.

You can say, no, this doesn't work for me right now.

And maybe in the future, feel free to reach out.