Lewis Howes

Again, I don't know if this is something you've experienced in the past or if you can relate to this right now, but man, it just sucked the energy out of my body and my soul.

Just being in fear, thinking of how do I reply to this person who's asking me to do this thing that I really don't want to do it.

So let me try to like make an excuse or soften the blow or talk about something I've got going on as opposed to just...

I can't do it right now.

Thanks for thinking about me, but I just, I can't take it on.

And again,

It would make me look so unsure and easy to argue with if I was just like, well, maybe I can do it, but I'm not sure about it.

Let me get back to you.

It was just like, I would delay.

I just needed to rip the bandaid off.

I just need to rip it off and stop being scared about what people thought about me.

And the day I learned to simplify this and really have a simple,

clear decisiveness without a five page essay replying to people, my life started to change.

Now it took me a few months of going through pain of saying no, no, no, no, and getting those reps in and feeling that uncertainty of is this person gonna like me?

Are they frustrated with me?

and they've always relied on me and now they can't.

I had to overcome that.

And you might lose some friends and that's okay.

But real friends will respect your boundaries.

Real friends will respect your peace.