Lewis Howes

I need good sleep.

I need healthy boundaries.

And again, when I spent years saying yes to people that would take advantage of me, I shrank.

I shrank emotionally, psychologically, physically, my energy shrank.

And I remember doing a session with Tony Robbins one time and one of his masterminds.

And again, you become,

The five people you spend the most time with.

And I spent some time with Tony Robbins and a mastermind.

And I asked him one question.

I remember this question really transformed my life in a powerful way, what he said.

And the question I asked him was like, you know, I feel like I'm a seven out of 10 in a lot of areas of my life.

And he said, do you want to be a 7 out of 10 guy or a 10 out of 10 guy?

And I was like, well, I want to be a 10 out of 10 guy.

And he essentially told me, like, you've got to start creating healthier boundaries with yourself.

And you've got to be willing to be unliked by people.

And as a kid who grew up feeling unliked by everyone by not having any friends, it just felt like, man, but I really needed everyone to like me to feel safe.

And that was BS.

I needed to like myself to feel safe.

no matter what anyone else thought about me around me.

Now, of course, I'm not here to dismiss my family and my wife and my best friends, not here to say, screw you to everyone.