Liliana

And I remember crying to my mom about it.

Like, I hate that he puts me in the corner until I fall asleep and whatever.

And so she, instead of talking to her husband about it, she started teaching me ways to stand against the wall so that I could sleep without him coming over to hit me.

She told me to get a pillow and like put it up and then kind of lean.

So I tried that one day, put the pillow up and leaned.

And he came over, snatched the pillow away, hit me a bunch.

He was essentially like, I don't know why you thought that was something you can do.

And whatever.

It was just a lot.

So with physical abuse, there were both spontaneous beatings and ritualistic beatings.

And I say beatings because that's what they were.

Language is important.

So spanking is typically a swat on the behind.

I think it's more so to embarrass a child than it is to hurt them.

You know, maybe a little sting.

Do I think spanking is okay?

No, but that's what spanking is.

A beating is excessive force.

It could be on any area of the body, even the behind.

And it can be done with a closed fist, it can be done with an open hand, it can be done with an object, but a beating is a beating.