Lisa Bilyeu

And how do I make sure that when I get into a new relationship, that it's somebody that actually deserves me?

And how do I set boundaries and guidelines so that I never get trapped again?

Instead of leaving, which I wish I had done, but I didn't feel like I had the confidence to do it, I stayed and became toxic back as a defense so that he couldn't hurt me.

Because I wanted to hold on to my confidence and I wanted to make sure that the next person I was with wasn't going to even potentially erode it.

I have to own that that was my behavior, that I brought that to the relationship, that that just fueled the fire.

Now, here's the tricky thing is you never know.

You never know who you get with and how they're going to be.

So for me, it was about identifying all the things that I participated in, then going, how do I make sure that I don't do that in the future?

So when I met Tom, I came in with a set of boundaries.

I'd already built my confidence back because that's important.

I don't rely on him for my confidence.

I built it myself.

How do I build my confidence back?

And then I sat with him.

And how do I make sure that when I get into a new relationship, that it's somebody that actually deserves me?

And when we're dating, over time, I start to reveal these are my non-negotiables.

These are my boundaries.

And how do I set boundaries and guidelines so that I never get trapped again?

These are my value system.

This is my belief system.