Lisa Bilyeu

And over time, how does he respond?

Because I wanted to hold on to my confidence and I wanted to make sure that the next person I was with wasn't going to even potentially erode it.

If he starts to disrespect it, goodbye.

And I just told myself, this is what you stand for, Lisa.

If someone disrespects it again, under no circumstances, you're going to let that erode your confidence.

Now, here's the tricky thing is you never know.

You never know who you get with and how they're going to be.

And you're going to have a cheat sheet, if you will, on how you're going to date in future.

So when I met Tom, I came in with a set of boundaries.

And so when I met Tom, he held space for me.

I'd already built my confidence back because that's important.

He held utter respect for my boundaries, for my non-negotiables.

I don't rely on him for my confidence.

I built it myself.

And every single time I had an opportunity to be vulnerable, I was.

And then I sat with him.

And when we're dating, over time, I start to reveal these are my non-negotiables.

And every single time he had an opportunity to use my vulnerability against me in an argument, he never did.

These are my boundaries.

These are my value system.