Lisa Bilyeu

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So many women end up settling. Now, not because we want to, but because we're scared. We're scared of being alone. We're scared of starting over. We're scared that maybe this is as good as we can get. But that fear is actually then just keeping us stuck. So how on earth do we start making choices based on our worth so we never settle for less than we deserve?

So many women end up settling. Now, not because we want to, but because we're scared. We're scared of being alone. We're scared of starting over. We're scared that maybe this is as good as we can get. But that fear is actually then just keeping us stuck. So how on earth do we start making choices based on our worth so we never settle for less than we deserve?

Okay, so break that down even more because it's so hit me when you said we ask people's opinions and then we take that on. So like, let's just take families because I'm Greek Orthodox and obviously you're Indian. So our family culture is very dominant, if you will, in dictating what we should do and how we should show up.

Okay, so break that down even more because it's so hit me when you said we ask people's opinions and then we take that on. So like, let's just take families because I'm Greek Orthodox and obviously you're Indian. So our family culture is very dominant, if you will, in dictating what we should do and how we should show up.

So are you saying, for instance, if we ask our parents, hey, what do you think of my partner? They're going to come from their perspective based on what they think that you need in your life.

So are you saying, for instance, if we ask our parents, hey, what do you think of my partner? They're going to come from their perspective based on what they think that you need in your life.

Oh God, that's so true. Okay, so if you assess, this is their belief, this is their opinion, how do you then, to your words, disappear inwards so that you can start to listen to your own intuition? And then what if that intuition is saying, I don't want you to be alone? Because that's the second thing.

Oh God, that's so true. Okay, so if you assess, this is their belief, this is their opinion, how do you then, to your words, disappear inwards so that you can start to listen to your own intuition? And then what if that intuition is saying, I don't want you to be alone? Because that's the second thing.

It's like there's one thing listening to external, there's another thing listening to your own insecurities.

It's like there's one thing listening to external, there's another thing listening to your own insecurities.

Well, because if you're passive, you're not putting yourself out there, you don't feel rejected.

Well, because if you're passive, you're not putting yourself out there, you don't feel rejected.

That was so good. OK, so let's say you've done the work that you've just laid out and you really start to go inwards. But there's also the person that ends up choosing the wrong person time and time again and becomes this toxic cycle. And I'm really curious on why on earth sometimes we go for the person that isn't right for us and ignore the person that actually is right for us.

That was so good. OK, so let's say you've done the work that you've just laid out and you really start to go inwards. But there's also the person that ends up choosing the wrong person time and time again and becomes this toxic cycle. And I'm really curious on why on earth sometimes we go for the person that isn't right for us and ignore the person that actually is right for us.

God, everything you're saying really hit me in the sense of I had been there once upon a time with my ex-boyfriend. He was very toxic. He was very verbally abusive. And I literally, when I left him, when I finally found the courage, Jay, I was like, I'm going to find a guy that likes me, that's nice, that's kind, that's considerate. I found a guy that was nice, kind and considerate before Tom.

God, everything you're saying really hit me in the sense of I had been there once upon a time with my ex-boyfriend. He was very toxic. He was very verbally abusive. And I literally, when I left him, when I finally found the courage, Jay, I was like, I'm going to find a guy that likes me, that's nice, that's kind, that's considerate. I found a guy that was nice, kind and considerate before Tom.

And I was like, well, this is boring.

And I was like, well, this is boring.

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