Lisa Bilyeu

So by the time Quest started to grow and I started to realize, wow, hang on a minute. I've had this idea that I was really stupid, but I've kind of figured this stuff out. Maybe I'm not as stupid as I thought I was. I was finding the validation.

And that validation piece that I said that I was getting from being the stay-at-home wife, I realized I could now build my validation and being the person that didn't know something one day and could figure it out the next. Now, that idea was so enticing to me. Because imagine now, I fail. Oh, well, if I fail, what did I learn? Oh, great. I'm more powerful for it. Brilliant.

And that validation piece that I said that I was getting from being the stay-at-home wife, I realized I could now build my validation and being the person that didn't know something one day and could figure it out the next. Now, that idea was so enticing to me. Because imagine now, I fail. Oh, well, if I fail, what did I learn? Oh, great. I'm more powerful for it. Brilliant.

Now I validated myself through the failure. which is insane in and of itself. So I was like, this is fascinating. I wanted to keep going. And that was where I just paused and I said, but Lisa, you're about to have kids. And I was like, well, hang on a minute. Do I actually want kids? And that's where the idea came from. So the way that I processed it is I just are very honest.

Now I validated myself through the failure. which is insane in and of itself. So I was like, this is fascinating. I wanted to keep going. And that was where I just paused and I said, but Lisa, you're about to have kids. And I was like, well, hang on a minute. Do I actually want kids? And that's where the idea came from. So the way that I processed it is I just are very honest.

What does life actually look like in every possibility? So I just started writing out what are the possibilities? Number one, I quit my job and And I'm a stay-at-home wife. That's a possibility. Number two is that I keep working and I still have babies. That's a possibility because I know women that have done it. Number three is that I decide not to have kids and I just keep working. All right.

What does life actually look like in every possibility? So I just started writing out what are the possibilities? Number one, I quit my job and And I'm a stay-at-home wife. That's a possibility. Number two is that I keep working and I still have babies. That's a possibility because I know women that have done it. Number three is that I decide not to have kids and I just keep working. All right.

Those feel like three very possible buckets. Now what I do is I take an average Wednesday because Alana, we can all trick ourselves into thinking something's going to be amazing, right? We can trick ourselves into be like, oh my God, I really want to have a million subscribers on YouTube like Lisa. Well, let me tell you what a million subscribers come with. Demands. You have to keep serving.

Those feel like three very possible buckets. Now what I do is I take an average Wednesday because Alana, we can all trick ourselves into thinking something's going to be amazing, right? We can trick ourselves into be like, oh my God, I really want to have a million subscribers on YouTube like Lisa. Well, let me tell you what a million subscribers come with. Demands. You have to keep serving.

So the idea and the reality are very different because you can... paint a beautiful picture. But let's face it, every time you paint a beautiful picture, it never looks like that. So instead of me saying, I could very much get carried away with the excitement of having children. That is true. The idea of feeling like I've got a baby grown inside of me, I could...

So the idea and the reality are very different because you can... paint a beautiful picture. But let's face it, every time you paint a beautiful picture, it never looks like that. So instead of me saying, I could very much get carried away with the excitement of having children. That is true. The idea of feeling like I've got a baby grown inside of me, I could...

get emotional just thinking about it. The idea of having a little Tom with his ears and he's running around and he's like Tom Jr. the fourth is what we're going to call him because Tom was the third. I love that idea. So I could for sure convince myself why having kids is amazing. But what happens on an average Wednesday? That's what I really want to focus on.

get emotional just thinking about it. The idea of having a little Tom with his ears and he's running around and he's like Tom Jr. the fourth is what we're going to call him because Tom was the third. I love that idea. So I could for sure convince myself why having kids is amazing. But what happens on an average Wednesday? That's what I really want to focus on.

Not on the convincing of how magical it will be. What does your average everyday life actually look like? So now let's paint what an average Wednesday looks like in each of these buckets that I just painted for you. So an average Wednesday of me having both, right? Having kids and running a business. All right, I'm waking up. Let's say the kid is six. I'm waking up at 3 a.m.

Not on the convincing of how magical it will be. What does your average everyday life actually look like? So now let's paint what an average Wednesday looks like in each of these buckets that I just painted for you. So an average Wednesday of me having both, right? Having kids and running a business. All right, I'm waking up. Let's say the kid is six. I'm waking up at 3 a.m.

I'm helping them with their fever. I'm running them to the doctor at 7 a.m. because I've got to get to work by 9 a.m. I'm at work at 9 a.m., but my kid is crying because they want their mommy and I've left them with a nanny. Okay, then I feel really guilty. And so I'm trying to struggle to get home, but I have this big presentation. That's what a freaking average Wednesday looks like. Oh, yeah.

I'm helping them with their fever. I'm running them to the doctor at 7 a.m. because I've got to get to work by 9 a.m. I'm at work at 9 a.m., but my kid is crying because they want their mommy and I've left them with a nanny. Okay, then I feel really guilty. And so I'm trying to struggle to get home, but I have this big presentation. That's what a freaking average Wednesday looks like. Oh, yeah.

It's true. Oh, there you go. So I just ask myself with no judgment, is that the life I want? Not anyone else. Does Lisa Bilyeu enjoy that idea of that life? And the answer is no. That feels like freaking chaos to me. I don't function well in chaos. So it actually doesn't sound like a life that I want, an average Wednesday that isn't appealing to me.

It's true. Oh, there you go. So I just ask myself with no judgment, is that the life I want? Not anyone else. Does Lisa Bilyeu enjoy that idea of that life? And the answer is no. That feels like freaking chaos to me. I don't function well in chaos. So it actually doesn't sound like a life that I want, an average Wednesday that isn't appealing to me.

You know, when everyone like dreads the week, I don't want to be the person that's just dreading living. I want to enjoy my average Wednesday like I do a Saturday. So I said, that isn't the life I want. Great, now at least I know. So then I went down to the next bucket. What does it look like if I gave up work and dedicated my life to my children? And that's a very possible option.