Lisa Bilyeu

You know, when everyone like dreads the week, I don't want to be the person that's just dreading living. I want to enjoy my average Wednesday like I do a Saturday. So I said, that isn't the life I want. Great, now at least I know. So then I went down to the next bucket. What does it look like if I gave up work and dedicated my life to my children? And that's a very possible option.

And so I laid out what an average Wednesday looks like. Okay, well, my husband has been very honest and told me he's very ambitious. He's told me he's not coming home at 6 or 7 p.m. at night. So the reality is I'm somewhat of a single mom Monday to Friday. Now, I'm the type of person that appreciates my husband just telling me. I don't want to find out after I've had the child.

And so I laid out what an average Wednesday looks like. Okay, well, my husband has been very honest and told me he's very ambitious. He's told me he's not coming home at 6 or 7 p.m. at night. So the reality is I'm somewhat of a single mom Monday to Friday. Now, I'm the type of person that appreciates my husband just telling me. I don't want to find out after I've had the child.

So he's like, peace out, you're on your own. No, thank you. So he's told me this. And so again, not pretending what it would be like to have a child, the actual realities of what it's like to have a child with my husband. And that would be, I'm a single mother from Monday to Friday. Number one. Number two, I'm no longer involved in his daily life, which is building the business. Do I want that?

So he's like, peace out, you're on your own. No, thank you. So he's told me this. And so again, not pretending what it would be like to have a child, the actual realities of what it's like to have a child with my husband. And that would be, I'm a single mother from Monday to Friday. Number one. Number two, I'm no longer involved in his daily life, which is building the business. Do I want that?

Am I going to be resentful towards the child? For now, I'm not with my husband doing the thing that actually makes me feel good about myself. I will ask myself all of these questions and then I will go to the final bucket. And that is what if I don't have children? What would it be like on an average Wednesday right now? I would be doing the same.

Am I going to be resentful towards the child? For now, I'm not with my husband doing the thing that actually makes me feel good about myself. I will ask myself all of these questions and then I will go to the final bucket. And that is what if I don't have children? What would it be like on an average Wednesday right now? I would be doing the same.

But what will it look like on an average Wednesday when I'm 80 years old? Maybe my husband's passed away and now I don't have children and I don't have a husband. Will I be okay? And I'm just honest. Once I'm able to be that honest with myself, I'm not pulling the wool over my eyes and I know exactly what I'm getting into.

But what will it look like on an average Wednesday when I'm 80 years old? Maybe my husband's passed away and now I don't have children and I don't have a husband. Will I be okay? And I'm just honest. Once I'm able to be that honest with myself, I'm not pulling the wool over my eyes and I know exactly what I'm getting into.

And so any decision that I end up making, I know that in 2, 3, 5, 10 years, I won't have regrets because I've looked at the situation with the utter reality of what it actually is. And now I would say I made the best decision with the knowledge that I have. So that was how I ended up saying, I love my life. I love working. I love building these businesses with my husband. Why would I change that?

And so any decision that I end up making, I know that in 2, 3, 5, 10 years, I won't have regrets because I've looked at the situation with the utter reality of what it actually is. And now I would say I made the best decision with the knowledge that I have. So that was how I ended up saying, I love my life. I love working. I love building these businesses with my husband. Why would I change that?

Now, the final piece is listening to other people. A lot of the times, and when we make a decision and what we feel, we're like, we want to block everyone out. Don't persuade me. I don't want to hear you. Now, why are we so worried that they're going to persuade us? But if they persuade us, aren't they actually then showing us something else that we haven't seen?

Now, the final piece is listening to other people. A lot of the times, and when we make a decision and what we feel, we're like, we want to block everyone out. Don't persuade me. I don't want to hear you. Now, why are we so worried that they're going to persuade us? But if they persuade us, aren't they actually then showing us something else that we haven't seen?

So I think if my decision cannot withstand people's disagreements, people's rebuttals, then maybe I wasn't strong in my conviction in the first place. So what I then did is I allowed to listen to people to say why they think I'm crazy, to make the decision that I don't want children. So number one was my dad. Oh, who are you going to leave your money to? That was his thing.

So I think if my decision cannot withstand people's disagreements, people's rebuttals, then maybe I wasn't strong in my conviction in the first place. So what I then did is I allowed to listen to people to say why they think I'm crazy, to make the decision that I don't want children. So number one was my dad. Oh, who are you going to leave your money to? That was his thing.

It's like, dad, I don't live in the ancient times. A, I think if I've actually spent every last penny on like my dying bed and I'm taking my last breath and then I'm writing the last check, that's a life well lived. Then he would say, who's going to take care of you when you're older? And I thought, okay, that's actually a very valid thing.

It's like, dad, I don't live in the ancient times. A, I think if I've actually spent every last penny on like my dying bed and I'm taking my last breath and then I'm writing the last check, that's a life well lived. Then he would say, who's going to take care of you when you're older? And I thought, okay, that's actually a very valid thing.

I cannot ignore that parents do turn to their children to have that support system when they're elderly. What am I going to do? I better build a great friendship circle. I better have people around me that I've poured my heart and soul into. And just because I haven't given birth myself doesn't mean that they're not going to be around. And then the last piece is your legacy.

I cannot ignore that parents do turn to their children to have that support system when they're elderly. What am I going to do? I better build a great friendship circle. I better have people around me that I've poured my heart and soul into. And just because I haven't given birth myself doesn't mean that they're not going to be around. And then the last piece is your legacy.

People always say, yeah, but what about your legacy? I had to then just ask, what the hell does that mean? People throw around phrases and you kind of repeat the phrases, but you don't actually ask yourself what that actually means, right? So I'm like, what does it actually mean to have a legacy? And I perceive the word legacy as being something that you are remembered even after death. Great.