Lisa Bilyeu

There's always space for us to say to each other the hard thing and ask each other the hard questions, but it's always in service of trying to get to the answer that feels right for you. So at the end of the day, hopefully the description, the breakdown of how I handle children, people can use for children or anything in their lives. But don't you dare let other people make a decision for you.

I'm not religious, so I don't necessarily believe in an afterlife. Now, look, I know other people do, and there's zero problem with that. But I just go, okay, I believe my life on earth is finite. So if my life is finite, what the hell am I doing with the 24 hours I have right now? Am I living it in service of someone else, or am I living it in service of myself?

I'm not religious, so I don't necessarily believe in an afterlife. Now, look, I know other people do, and there's zero problem with that. But I just go, okay, I believe my life on earth is finite. So if my life is finite, what the hell am I doing with the 24 hours I have right now? Am I living it in service of someone else, or am I living it in service of myself?

What's interesting is, is that the somewhat truth but cop-out answer is I wouldn't share anything because I wouldn't be who I am today if I hadn't experienced it. Now, I need that to be true. And the reason why I need it to be true is I tell myself that the next time something goes wrong, I'm just like, oh, this happened for a reason. You're going to learn from it.

What's interesting is, is that the somewhat truth but cop-out answer is I wouldn't share anything because I wouldn't be who I am today if I hadn't experienced it. Now, I need that to be true. And the reason why I need it to be true is I tell myself that the next time something goes wrong, I'm just like, oh, this happened for a reason. You're going to learn from it.

So every time something bad happens, I need it to be true that I'm going to get better for it. So if I go back and I try to soothe the Lisa, then I'm kind of eliminating the belief system that I have today. So I want to make sure that I'm never given a fake answer, which is why I give all of that caveat.

So every time something bad happens, I need it to be true that I'm going to get better for it. So if I go back and I try to soothe the Lisa, then I'm kind of eliminating the belief system that I have today. So I want to make sure that I'm never given a fake answer, which is why I give all of that caveat.

If I could still learn the lessons that I've learned and assume that that doesn't go away, I would go back to the old Lisa and I would say, you've got your own back. You've got your own back. Because I spent so many years looking for people to have my back. I was looking to be saved metaphorically and actually.

If I could still learn the lessons that I've learned and assume that that doesn't go away, I would go back to the old Lisa and I would say, you've got your own back. You've got your own back. Because I spent so many years looking for people to have my back. I was looking to be saved metaphorically and actually.

And every time I was looking to my dad, I was looking to my mom, I was looking to friends, I was looking to co-workers, I was looking to my husband. And you had said it earlier, I've had massive gut issues. And one of the biggest realizations was I got married very young. Me and my husband are very much intertwined and I love him and we trust each other, but I would turn to him for everything.

And every time I was looking to my dad, I was looking to my mom, I was looking to friends, I was looking to co-workers, I was looking to my husband. And you had said it earlier, I've had massive gut issues. And one of the biggest realizations was I got married very young. Me and my husband are very much intertwined and I love him and we trust each other, but I would turn to him for everything.

And so what ended up happening was I didn't build my own backbone. And so it got to a day where my gut was so bad, I couldn't even stand up. I was having excruciating pains. I was 20 pounds lighter than I was now. And I was in the middle of a photo shoot and I'm getting these pains where I could barely breathe. So of course, being a woman, you don't want to make a fuss. This is what I told myself.

And so what ended up happening was I didn't build my own backbone. And so it got to a day where my gut was so bad, I couldn't even stand up. I was having excruciating pains. I was 20 pounds lighter than I was now. And I was in the middle of a photo shoot and I'm getting these pains where I could barely breathe. So of course, being a woman, you don't want to make a fuss. This is what I told myself.

So I just politely excused myself. I run upstairs. And the pain is so bad, I actually fall to the floor. Now, in that moment, I have my husband to lean on. So I've got my phone next to me. We have a rule that we're allowed to call each other and we're allowed to ignore each other. I can ignore the first call. I can ignore the second call.

So I just politely excused myself. I run upstairs. And the pain is so bad, I actually fall to the floor. Now, in that moment, I have my husband to lean on. So I've got my phone next to me. We have a rule that we're allowed to call each other and we're allowed to ignore each other. I can ignore the first call. I can ignore the second call.

But if one of us calls the other person for the third time, it means I don't care what you're doing. You could be interviewing the president of the United States. If I call you three times in a row, you drop everything and you answer. That's our code. Great. So imagine I'm on the floor. I'm taking a breath. I'm trying to call him. Hey, I need your help. He doesn't answer.

But if one of us calls the other person for the third time, it means I don't care what you're doing. You could be interviewing the president of the United States. If I call you three times in a row, you drop everything and you answer. That's our code. Great. So imagine I'm on the floor. I'm taking a breath. I'm trying to call him. Hey, I need your help. He doesn't answer.

I call again the second time. He doesn't answer. But the third time I'm like, oh, he's going to answer. We've got the deal. He doesn't answer. So here I am thinking that my safety net, my savior is going to be here to help me. And he's not. Now, in that moment, I'd already built a billion dollar company at that point. But in that moment, I kept turning to other people.

I call again the second time. He doesn't answer. But the third time I'm like, oh, he's going to answer. We've got the deal. He doesn't answer. So here I am thinking that my safety net, my savior is going to be here to help me. And he's not. Now, in that moment, I'd already built a billion dollar company at that point. But in that moment, I kept turning to other people.

And in that moment, I said, oh, no one's coming to save you, Lisa. The person you thought was coming to save you, he's not here. What are you going to do about it? Are you going to stay on this cold bathroom floor? Or are you going to freaking get back up and know that you get to save your own life? And in that moment, I was like, well, I guess I've got to get up.