Lisa Turkhurst

because you know you have limited resources in your bank account and you're wise in being responsible.

But if you did give that out, then you run the risk of some people not being responsible.

So you only give access to people according to their demonstrated level of responsibility.

Well, you know, trust is built time plus believable behavior.

So it is going to take time and you need to be able to see believable behavior.

Because remember, the boundaries that you put in place are to keep you sane.

safe stable and self-controlled and so when you have enough emotional fortitude to maybe test the waters and and they have demonstrated over time believable behavior then yes of course the boundaries can be flexible but you know a big indication is their behavior you see it we don't want to accuse people of being a certain way just because they make a mistake that's what grace is for

But if you are seeing patterns of behavior that are unhealthy, that they are unwilling or incapable of changing, then the boundaries must stay in place.

I think so, Dave.

I know, but now you're aging us, so let's not do that.

Thank you.

Always a joy, Dave.