Listener (Aaron)

Yeah, you just need to sit, bro. But it's interesting that the other sister feels differently. Apparently she's done a lot of processing before. he said, around this trauma and they're friendly now.

Yeah, you just need to sit, bro. But it's interesting that the other sister feels differently. Apparently she's done a lot of processing before. he said, around this trauma and they're friendly now.

Also, given everything we've talked about, I also have questions about what qualifies as a lot of processing in this family. So there are a range of responses in the aftermath of this abuse. I don't presume to know which one is the right one for each person in this family. That is entirely up to them individually to decide.

Also, given everything we've talked about, I also have questions about what qualifies as a lot of processing in this family. So there are a range of responses in the aftermath of this abuse. I don't presume to know which one is the right one for each person in this family. That is entirely up to them individually to decide.

Also, given everything we've talked about, I also have questions about what qualifies as a lot of processing in this family. So there are a range of responses in the aftermath of this abuse. I don't presume to know which one is the right one for each person in this family. That is entirely up to them individually to decide.

What I do know is that forgiveness, true forgiveness, as we've talked about on the show before, is a process. And it can be a very long and complicated process in a case like this. I think that process can contain periods where anger and sadness and shame

What I do know is that forgiveness, true forgiveness, as we've talked about on the show before, is a process. And it can be a very long and complicated process in a case like this. I think that process can contain periods where anger and sadness and shame

What I do know is that forgiveness, true forgiveness, as we've talked about on the show before, is a process. And it can be a very long and complicated process in a case like this. I think that process can contain periods where anger and sadness and shame

and disgust pop up again and again, and where those feelings can exist alongside the forgiveness, where they almost become part of the forgiveness in a weird way. And you might even have to forgive someone over and over again, even as the memory of what happened continues to cause you pain. But jumping straight to, I forgive you because not forgiving you

and disgust pop up again and again, and where those feelings can exist alongside the forgiveness, where they almost become part of the forgiveness in a weird way. And you might even have to forgive someone over and over again, even as the memory of what happened continues to cause you pain. But jumping straight to, I forgive you because not forgiving you

and disgust pop up again and again, and where those feelings can exist alongside the forgiveness, where they almost become part of the forgiveness in a weird way. And you might even have to forgive someone over and over again, even as the memory of what happened continues to cause you pain. But jumping straight to, I forgive you because not forgiving you

is just too uncomfortable for me to live with, that's a different thing. I offer this question to our friend here. What did it actually mean for you to forgive your dad? Was it true forgiveness or was it, I'm just going to put this to bed and ignore it because it's too painful for me?

is just too uncomfortable for me to live with, that's a different thing. I offer this question to our friend here. What did it actually mean for you to forgive your dad? Was it true forgiveness or was it, I'm just going to put this to bed and ignore it because it's too painful for me?

is just too uncomfortable for me to live with, that's a different thing. I offer this question to our friend here. What did it actually mean for you to forgive your dad? Was it true forgiveness or was it, I'm just going to put this to bed and ignore it because it's too painful for me?

And I have to imagine that that's created some tension among the siblings. I have to think that the sister who cut ties with dad has some feelings about that, and that's tough too.

And I have to imagine that that's created some tension among the siblings. I have to think that the sister who cut ties with dad has some feelings about that, and that's tough too.

And I have to imagine that that's created some tension among the siblings. I have to think that the sister who cut ties with dad has some feelings about that, and that's tough too.

But look, the other reason that this whole forgiveness thing matters is if he did bypass some anger toward his dad, does that speak to a larger way of dealing with his feelings that might also be showing up in the way that he's kept the secret from his partner?

But look, the other reason that this whole forgiveness thing matters is if he did bypass some anger toward his dad, does that speak to a larger way of dealing with his feelings that might also be showing up in the way that he's kept the secret from his partner?

But look, the other reason that this whole forgiveness thing matters is if he did bypass some anger toward his dad, does that speak to a larger way of dealing with his feelings that might also be showing up in the way that he's kept the secret from his partner?