Logan Urie

I can't wait to dig into all of this with you.

And for that person listening who is single and they don't want to be, I really want to help them understand their patterns of behavior that are holding them back from finding love and then what to do about it.

And they've been doing things their way their whole life.

I want them to come into this conversation with an open mind and really be ready to think about dating like a scientist, dating in a new way, testing their theories.

Because it might be that who they think they should be with is not who's going to make them happiest long term.

And I want them to be open-minded about my advice and open-minded about who they date.

Dating like a scientist is taking the best of the scientific method if you can think back to a biology class in high school.

So what happens?

You come up with a hypothesis, then you test it, you run experiments, and you see, was my hypothesis right or was my hypothesis wrong?

So for example, to the listener out there who says, I have an advanced degree.

I need to be with someone who also has an advanced degree.

Great, that's your hypothesis.

Let's test it.

Maybe what's going on is you actually just really want someone who's intellectually curious.

That can come with someone who went to college and grad school or someone who didn't, but is a voracious reader.

Why don't you go out with some people who don't have advanced degrees, talk about interesting topics, see if they can hold your conversation and keep you interested.

And maybe what you find out is that you did need that advanced degree, but more likely you find out that it was about some underlying trait that you wanted and not about the advanced degree.

So

be open to testing your assumptions.

I'm hearing the same things that you are, where a lot of people are talking about being burned out, or a lot of people are yearning for this previous age before the dating apps, where they kind of romanticize it and think, I just wanna meet organically.