Louisa Zissman

Armed with a very long stick, I watched as my father hung out of the window and fished from the gutter.

My husband and I are a gay couple and are in a healthy, committed relationship.

Good for you, Babs.

We do, however, get turned on by being watched.

Many a Friday or Saturday evening, we would wait for it to get dark and head to the local dogging ground.

This place is like a car park in the woods, with a bottom car park, avoid the pun, and a top car park.

There's a lot of back and forth.

To be clear, we don't let others get involved, but they are free to watch.

I think this is probably how we would do Dogging Lou, wouldn't it?

We'd let others watch us, wouldn't we?

I don't know if I'd want some dirty fat bastard wanking at my window.

Who says it's a dirty, fat bastard?

It could be a sexy bastard.

Or a sexy bitch.

You see?

Stereotypes.

Okay, come on.

And we're smashing the stereotypes.

We've all seen Louis Theroux with the dog in tails and we've seen what the people look like.

I mean, to be fair, the stereotype does exist for a reason.