Luisa Zisman

I think when it comes to relocating,

it's so personal I think in this instance you can only do your best I don't think you're going to have a magic wand here of everyone being happy clappy and you know because it sounds as though there is a bit of disconnect all you can do is be consistent I think with your daughter saying I love you I'm here to support you in any way I possibly can but also keeping those clear lines of I live here and you are always welcome to come over here and live with me if you want to choose that and obviously you're still very young because you had her at 17 and she's now only 19 and

But also she has given... What I would say is, from what I can see, is you have given her choice.

You said, look, you're welcome to come here and live with me and we will make that happen too.

I think for me, as a mum, but also looking at these two situations, two sides...

I think all you can do is be consistent in the love that you are offering her, but bounding as well the fact that you have a life too.

Keeping it very clear.

You deserve that life.

Don't feel guilty.

Honestly, they're genuinely about the same.

I'd say they're the same.

They have them equally.

I just don't tell you.

But I think the key there, what I've heard there is the, you just abandoned me and you care, however she phrased it.

That for me, I think has come from influence with someone.

If she is feeling that, I think possibly I would just confront that statement and go, right, do you feel that?

And then put that, sort of put that to bed a bit.

I am proud of you.

That's cute.

Can I just say, when she said seafood, I was like, that's so risky.