Mónica Guzmán

Some idea has gotten complicated for you.

Because of that, I never thought of it that way moment.

So the way to get those moments is to have more curious conversations, which means that Ted Lasso popularized that quote about, be curious, not judgmental.

It was a really famous scene with darts.

Anyway, it's a great episode.

But the cool thing is that when you are curious,

You cannot also be judgmental in that moment.

When you are judgmental, you cannot also be curious, but you can switch between the two.

By default, we'll often switch from a place of curiosity and then hear something that triggers us and then we'll come back to judgment.

But then once we're in judgment, what you got to do is turn it back to curiosity.

As soon as you have the thought, oh, they're just saying that because they're X.

You can go, well, are they saying that because they're ex?

Why are they saying that?

Let me figure it out.

Let me ask some questions generously and try to hear for the answer.

No, and you're spot on about this.

And in fact, I mean, I've been having lots of conversations about the book and talking with a lot of folks, and this is a very, very common and completely valid, you know, sort of barrier to all this.

But I try to stay curious about these barriers.

And what I ask is,

Why do we keep going to the worst case scenario?