Madeleine Stewart

And you kind of have to kind of squish who you are into a couple of photos and a tagline and

You know what I mean?

It's advertising in a way.

And I think it can be really, really difficult for people with disability.

It's kind of like, how much do I disclose?

How much do I share?

You know, is this safe for me?

We have a lot of things to think about, especially around like assault and things like that around dating.

It can be dangerous.

And that is something that is very much at the front of a lot of people with disabilities mind, no matter the gender of that person.

we know that dating can be dangerous for us.

But I think mostly when we're dating online, the biggest issue is I think people messaging hate, the amount of abuse.

And, you know, Deborah Keenahan spoke to me.

We didn't have it in the episode, but Deborah, who features in this episode, is a woman with short stature and she talks about how when she was on a dating site, it just didn't work for her.

like the amount of abuse she got.

And I think that's a common experience for people with disability, either online abuse, like written to you through dating sites, or you go on a date with someone who's just awful or yeah, just don't want to connect with you that either see you just as a disability or, you know, I don't know.

I don't know.

I don't,

I don't want to assume what they're thinking, but it can be really confusing and really you're not quite sure what a person's intention is on these dating sites.

Oh, you won't believe it.